My Self in Interpersonal Communication

Today I learn a lot about my self in Interpersonal Communication. I learn that my personality is made by 3 factors, they are Others' Images of You (means other people opinion about us build our personality, they made opinion without being asked), Social Comparison (means our opinion about ourself compare with other people, we usually do it automatically without thinking. Everytime we compare ourself with people around us and change the way we talk or the way we think become like them), and Cultural Teachings (means cultures which build our personality because cultures usually become part of us).
I learn that there is 4 things about our personality which are Open Self (my characters that both I and others know), Blind Self (my characters that just other people know, usually they gossiping about our negative points that we don't even realize it), Hidden Self (my characters that only I who know it, usually my bad habbits,etc) and Unknown Self (my characters that both I and others don't know).
I learn to do self-disclosure my values, beliefs, desires, my behaviour, and my self-qualities or characteristics.
I do the Apprehensive quiz and got 20 as my points.Hha^^
They said I'm a little afraid to talk or communicate..
My friends said I'm loud and talkative.. XD
So??
Haha^^
I also learn some factors that increase communication apprehension, they are degree of evaluation, subordinate status, degree of conspicuousness, degree of unpredictability, degree of dissimilarity, prior successes and failures, and lack of communication skills and experiment.

We need Interpersonal Communication for our future!

Interpersonal Communications is the transmission of information from one person to another and their understanding of it through the use of common language or symbols. It is a way of interacting and happens always at all times whether you want it to happen or not. However, just because you transmit a message, it does not presuppose that communication happens. Without both information and understanding on the part of the other person, communication (understanding of your message) does not occur. The efficiency at which you communicate will determine the level of happiness and success in your life. Most people do not think about or realize how they are communicating to others. It is affected by how you look, body language, attitude, perceptions, know the process and understanding each others. Other people’s opinion and relationship with you is dependent on your image, which stems from your interaction and behavior. Their perception of the quality you give will effect their decision to deal and have a right relationship with you. How you interact with others will create an image in their minds, whether you are someone to be trusted and credible or someone not worthy of their time. nterpersonal communications happens every where from personal contact, to marketing, advertising, sales, employee interaction, stockholders, employee to supervisors and management, and public relations. As technology advances, it is imperative to learn, embrace and use effective communication. You need to provide leadership in its growth, for the sake of time, production, growth and credibility. It is also important to realize that communicating through different devices and mediums contains different challenges and considerations.

Interpersonal Communication is Important

Interpersonal communication involves a close group of participants. It is basically the everyday conversations you carry on and it includes speeches, general friendly exchanges, arguments and basically anytime you speak to someone. Interpersonal communication involves face to face encounters. You are talking in person not over a computer, phone or through written information. You can get immediate responses. You are also able to benefit from body language. You hear a voice where you can pick up on different dialects and speech patterns. The variances in interpersonal communication involve the people and situations. You communicate differently with someone you know well verses a stranger. You will have different topics of conversation when talking to your preacher or your best friend. These variations make interpersonal communication flexibility important for difference circumstances. Interpersonal communication is important because you need it to develop throughout the stages of life. You get so much from interpersonal communication. You learn, teach and get an identity through interpersonal communicaton. You also share with others who you are. You need interpersonal communication to learn how to pronounce words correctly, how to speak properly in certain situations and how to communicate in general. Interpersonal communication has taken a back seat to other forms of communication in recent years. More people than ever are using the internet to exchange information and make contact with others. We must also be sure to keep interpersonal communication in our lives. Without it babies will never learn to talk properly and we can never expand our language abilities through learning form others speech. The spoken word should never have its importance underestimated.

Effective communication and Interpersonal relationship

To build a good interpersonal relationship we need to make a best quality of our communication. There are some factors which effecting interpersonal communication. They are trust, supportive behavior and be open.

1. Trust : when we feel we are safe and we won’t be hurt by others when we share information and secrets. Values that needed when we want to be trust are honest, reliable and consistent. Having a good position or status will make others to trust you because having a high position means bring more responsibility. To the point when talking is also important. After saying the purposes and hopes people will trust you and a good quality of communication will grow.

2. Supportive behavior and be open : when we can give messages, feelings and perception without looking at the negative points. Become objective is also a good values of supportive behavior. Talking about problems with problem oriented not person oriented, so you can work together to find the way out not ending with gossiping other’s negative points. Looking everyone as the same person as human, we should not judge other people bad because we can’t feel the same life like others. Everyone has their own life’s problem. Respect to other people opinion and want to do self-introspection show professionalism of yourself.

Working together as a team and having a good supportive spirit is a good way to improve our interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication will decrease by ego and shy feeling. So self confident is important to build a good interpersonal communication with other people.

My 2nd meeting in Interpersonal Communication (IC)

Thursday, August 27th 2009.
I learn about Interpesonal Communication skill is the communication between 2 persons for their own will, for the good of their group or their consciousness of realtionship they have.
Interpersonal Communication purposes are to learn (sharing informations), relate (friendships or relationships), influence (gossiping), play (having fun) and help (giving advice).
IC elements are source-receiver (the persons), encoding-decoding (process to understand), messages (action), feedback messages (positive reaction and negative reaction, person focus and message focus, immediate and delayed, low monitoring and high monitoring), channel (gesture), feedforward messages.
Noise happens when the messages doesn't get by the receiver or the sender doesn't get the feedback message. It can be physical noise (wrong atmosphere, being in the noisy place), physiological (getting problem with the 5 human sense), psychological (are u with me?), semantic (language).
In this class I learn to speak up and improve my IC so I can communicate better with others.